Honestly, when I heard the news of your decision to carry your baby to term and give it up for adoption, I thought you were crazy. I guess I expected a teenager to get an abortion or be a teen mom, but your case struck me as extremely unusual.
As I learn more about abortion and pregnancy, I have come to terms with the fact that you made the correct decision. Living with the burden of knowing you aborted your baby sounds horrifying, and I think it would’ve haunted you for the rest of your life. Even though the adoption process had many ups and downs for you, I admire that you kept focused on the goal to find a loving home for your baby. It shows that you truly cared for the life you were giving, and that you recognized you made a mistake. Recognizing this mistake, which is every teen’s nightmare, and being mature about a solution was key to your process, and I think that is why you were successful with putting your baby up for adoption.
Personally, if I were in your shoes, I don’t know what I would do. Although I believe you made the correct choice, I cannot imagine the amount of shaming you received from society. Of course, I genuinely admire your decision to carry the baby to term, but I don’t ever want to be in your shoes because I have a plan for my future that cannot be broken. I don’t know how you kept up on schoolwork and social life while pregnant because I can barely keep up with my life as is! I have a cousin, who was pregnant at 18, and she kept her baby, yet now her kid’s father is no longer in the picture and she is constantly scrambling to conjure money to support her child. She loves her child, but her life is everything but easy.
I guess my point is I don’t want to ever be pregnant until I am married. If I got pregnant before marriage, I would not be able to carry it to term like you did because I have too many plans for my future. The only other option for me would be an abortion, but I definitely don’t want to get an abortion. I am by no means against abortion; I think in some circumstances it works for the woman to abort the baby, yet I cannot imagine living with that burden on my shoulders. All in all, your decision to confront a mistake the way you did was incredible, and it proves your mental toughness.
I hope my few words of encouragement help you and allow you to understand the view of many teens in your community.
Dear Juno,
Honestly, when I heard the news of your decision to carry your baby to term and give it up for adoption, I thought you were crazy. I guess I expected a teenager to get an abortion or be a teen mom, but your case struck me as extremely unusual.
As I learn more about abortion and pregnancy, I have come to terms with the fact that you made the correct decision. Living with the burden of knowing you aborted your baby sounds horrifying, and I think it would’ve haunted you for the rest of your life. Even though the adoption process had many ups and downs for you, I admire that you kept focused on the goal to find a loving home for your baby. It shows that you truly cared for the life you were giving, and that you recognized you made a mistake. Recognizing this mistake, which is every teen’s nightmare, and being mature about a solution was key to your process, and I think that is why you were successful with putting your baby up for adoption.
Personally, if I were in your shoes, I don’t know what I would do. Although I believe you made the correct choice, I cannot imagine the amount of shaming you received from society. Of course, I genuinely admire your decision to carry the baby to term, but I don’t ever want to be in your shoes because I have a plan for my future that cannot be broken. I don’t know how you kept up on schoolwork and social life while pregnant because I can barely keep up with my life as is! I have a cousin, who was pregnant at 18, and she kept her baby, yet now her kid’s father is no longer in the picture and she is constantly scrambling to conjure money to support her child. She loves her child, but her life is everything but easy.
I guess my point is I don’t want to ever be pregnant until I am married. If I got pregnant before marriage, I would not be able to carry it to term like you did because I have too many plans for my future. The only other option for me would be an abortion, but I definitely don’t want to get an abortion. I am by no means against abortion; I think in some circumstances it works for the woman to abort the baby, yet I cannot imagine living with that burden on my shoulders. All in all, your decision to confront a mistake the way you did was incredible, and it proves your mental toughness.
I hope my few words of encouragement help you and allow you to understand the view of many teens in your community.
Sincerely,
Avalon E